Tanya and Matt Day have been determined to raise awareness for the condition of ectopics after their terribly sad loss, as they do not want others to be unaware as they were at such a devastating time, for this we are truly thankful.
Tania has tirelessly fundraised from organising a curry night with a raffle last April to more recently, last week her and Eleni (Tanya and Matt’s daughter) running in a 2 mile family run as part of the Swindon half marathon event as Tanya says she hadn’t run for over a year so it was a case of keeping up with Eleni! but perhaps most exciting was running a sweep stake on their much wanted baby, Jack, who we are delighted to say was born this year in June.
Here is Tanya’s heartfelt story.
“My husband and I lost our baby to an ectopic pregnancy in August 2013. I had never really heard of it until it happened to me. I had emergency surgery to remove the pregnancy and lost my left fallopian tube in the process. It was a truly devastating time, but I was one of the lucky ones. An untreated ectopic pregnancy can prove fatal if the tube ruptures and causes internal bleeding.
To have to face emergency surgery as well as the devastating loss of a much wanted baby, 14 days prior to my wedding day was the hardest time of my life. We had been so excited, everything was coming together. We were about to get married, we had Eleni and now we had a baby on the way. About a week after I found out I was pregnant, I started bleeding. It was a Saturday so no-one in the early pregnancy unit was available until the Monday, but I was told I was likely miscarrying. At this point I had no pain. I went to have a pregnancy test on the Monday. It showed positive. They took a HCG level test. This also showed I was still pregnant. Still, I was told it was a miscarriage and I was to return two days later to see how it was progressing. I went back on the Wednesday and they tested my HCG levels again. They had risen but not doubled as should have been the case in a normal pregnancy. The rising levels showed I wasn’t miscarrying. An appointment was made for the Friday for an internal ultrasound.
I went to work on the Friday morning before my afternoon appointment. It was whilst at work that I first got the pains. They had me bent double. I was sure at this point it was a miscarriage, no-one had mentioned ectopic pregnancy so this never crossed my mind. I left work early and drove home. I was still in agony and was probably stupid to drive, but didn’t think my life was in danger too.
I went to the hospital with my husband for the ultrasound. They could find nothing in my womb. The sonographer looked concerned but still nothing was said. I was hopeful that all would be ok.
We got taken into a side room where we were told it was an ectopic pregnancy, and that I would require surgery to remove it. I was hysterical at this point. I asked if the baby could be saved. It couldn’t. I told them I was getting married in two weeks, when were they going to operate? I was then told that someone was currently in theatre. As soon as they came out, I would be going in. Only then did I realise how serious things were. I got taken for surgery pregnant and woke up and I wasn’t anymore. They told me they had to remove my fallopian tube too as it was too damaged. But the greatest loss was the loss of our much wanted child.
I got taken for surgery pregnant and woke up and I wasn’t anymore. They told me they had to remove my fallopian tube too as it was too damaged. But the greatest loss was the loss of our much wanted child.”