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Keeponhoping
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Thanks butterfly, so exciting for you, not long to go now, we all wish you luck with the labour and can't wait to hear some happy baby news soon! X x

Nicola1720
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Ahh that's so lovely Butterfly1. Such a nice thing for them to do and hopefully makes that date so much easier now.

You will have to keep us updated with things - I'll keep checking up on you awaiting your news. It will all be fine and so worth the wait.

I'm just at the gym about to try a new class tonight so I'll probably be struggling to walk tomorrow :lol: then going home and my husband is out and I'm so excited about a bath and some piece and quiet. I do love him but sometimes you just need a bit of me time. Got my face mask at the ready. Xx

Keeponhoping
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Enjoy the class, don't work too hard! Hopefully a good soak in the bath will make walking a little easier tomorrow! X x

Butterfly1
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Thank you so much ladies.

I hope you haven't been too stiff or sore today Nicola :)

xxxx

Nicola1720
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I've been a little achy but nothing too bad, it's quite a nice ache too as it feels like I've worked hard. Definitely going to keep it up.

Hope everyone is doing ok.

princess pink
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Hi Ladies,

Kate ur welcome ;) I wish I could say something to help u. All I can do is keep praying for u let you know I'm always here for u.

I know what u mean. .. seeing ur baby that formed must if made it so much harder for u.

Its so unfair the suffering u have to go through.

You def need time to heal... I know it never goes away but I hope each day the pain lessens n u gain more hope.

Thank you. .. im glad I went to Wales for my bf n his mum n Arielle.

Don't rush into exercising until uv had time to heal n rest... xx

princess pink
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Nicola I'm glad ur neck is better. Awww thank u... yea its good I went Wales for my bf n his family. Yea its really sad about his mum having dementia. Oh really that is sad about ur grandad... it must have been so sad to see him getting worse with the denintia.

Yea its crazy that Arielle is already 5 months old... it has gone fast....

princess pink
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Nicola im glad u had a good spa break. .. sounds lovely n relaxing.

That is exciting re u viewing a hse.. I hope u get to see it soon.

Its great ur exercising.. don't over do ut though.

I hope ur blood test results don't seem for ever to come back. .. its such a long wait.

Im always here for u girls n will keep praying for u Nicola n Kate ;)

Butterly its great ur 37 wks now n that ur pregnancy is going well. I hope ur resting enough.

I'm taking Arielle to her first baby massage class on Monday. Im nervous about going as lost alot of my confidence still where its just me n Arielle most days. I still find it hard to get out.. n mainly only get out sometimes to local shops wen have to.

But im hoping the class will be enjoyable for her.

Hopefully il get out more with her wen it gets warmer out.. going for walks.

My bf just ordered me an exercise bike today so im hoping to get more fit n loose some weight as im still two stone heavier than my pre preg weight.

Hope all u ladies are ok.. sending love to u all. X x x

Keeponhoping
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Thanks Toni, i just want Nicola and myself to have our happy ending, life can be so cruel sometimes. I'm feeling ok though, trying to stay positive that one day our beans will stick, just got to fight for what you want i suppose! I think I'll feel better once i go to this specialist next month for testing, I'm counting the weeks down! I just want my period to come now too so i know my body is back to normal. Had my erpc on the 1st of march so hopefully it will make an appearance in the next week or so. My anxiety overtakes me sometimes and i think what if my period never returns, i just worry about everything! Come on body, if there's ever a time i want you to bleed, now is the time!

After my previous erpc, my period came just over 4 weeks, but i lost that one early, this loss was over 10 weeks, i wonder if that makes a difference as to when your period comes back as it was a little bit later?? Anyway, fingers crossed it comes soon!

Hope you enjoy the baby massage class, and now the nice weather is coming in, it will make you feel better about venturing out! I hope Arielle enjoys the class and boosts your self confidence at the same time.

Happy first mother's day to you, hope it's a special one for you. X x

Nicola, hope you're ok. X x

Butterfly, hope you're resting up. X x

Nicola1720
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Hi Toni,

Thank you - my neck feels so much better now. Hope you are enjoying your first Mother's Day with Arielle. Hope you enjoy the baby massage class - it will be good for Arielle and I'm sure once you're there you will feel fine.

Kate - funnily enough my period come 4 weeks to the day after my loss at 8weeks but my loss at Christmas where I hadn't made it to 5 weeks took nearly 5 weeks for my period to return. Doesn't make sense really?! Hope you have managed ok today. I've just enjoyed being with my Mum and hoping this time next year things will be different for us, we have to stay positive.

Butterfly - enjoy your last & first Mother's Day with bump in your belly. Hope it's been special. Xx

Keeponhoping
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hopefully this time next year will be a positive one for us. Hope you've enjoyed a lovely day with your mum. X x

princess pink
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Hi girls,

Been meaning to reply on here all day but had a busy day food shopping etc.

I hope U are all ok. Kate n Nicola iv been thinking about u both today n hope uv been ok today. . I know it can't be easy.

But I have faith that next yr mother's day ul both either b preg or holding ur own lil babies.

Thanks girls ;) I have just been busy today n was lucky that my bf brought me a mothers day card n a mum n me book from Arielle was sweet n he made dinner.

Butterfly happy mothers day to u n ur baby bump ;)

Thanks girls.. hopefully the baby massage class will go well n won't b as neve racking as I fear.

Ur right Kate that hopefully it be easier to get out the warmer it gets outside.

Kate I do believe u and Nicola will both have ur happy endings n yes it us cruel.. I will be so happy for u both wen u get ur hsppy endings.

Its good ur going to see a specialis for tests.

Don't worry ur period will come. I thinkthey say uusually in 4-6 wks.. I understand why u get anxiety is normalaafter all uv been through.

Im not sure but I don't think it will make a difference in wen u get ur next period coz of how far u were along in ur preg. But u could always ask ur foc to be sure. Im glad ur trying to stay positive.

It will happen for u n Nicola. U both deserve it more than anyone to get ur healthy bundle of joys n u will do.

Im sending love n hugs to u girls.

I hope ur ok all ok. X x x

Keeponhoping
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Toni, so nice of your other half to get you a little something from Arielle and to cook you dinner. we had a day outside sorting out our garden, the first grass cut is always the worst after the winter!

Oh ok, so could be another couple of weeks then until period arrives, i suppose everyone is different as to when it returns. Seeing the specialist next month can't come quick enough! 4 weeks today and we'll be there! I start back at work on Friday, so the appointment will be here before I know it, once i get back into work i won't be thinking about it as much and we'll be travelling up before we know it! good that the sick note ended on a Friday as it breaks me back in gently.

Hope you're ok Nicola

Have a good week everyone. X x

princess pink
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Hi Kate, Yea It was nice of my bf to get me a card n pres from Arielle n to make dinner for us.

It's good u had a productive day sortingoyt ur ggarden. I hope u didn't over do it as gardening is hard work. It must be nice to have ur own garden. We haven't got one but I guess we are lucky there's a park just about 5/10 min away.

Yea exactly so try nit to worry about ur period coming. . I know is easier said than done. I think mayb more u stress longer it can take to come. But don't worry u will get it.

Its good u r seeing a specialist. .. it will help keep u positive n give u some answers. I know mayb it would help u to know there's something wrong as to why uv been through what u have so they can help u to have a healthy preg.. either that or if there is nothing wrong than least ur being monitored as u ttc again n throughput ur next preg. Its hard to accept that these things can just happen to us for no reason... but unfortunately it is the case sometimes.

I guess what gave me hope was ju knowing loadsa wonet have miscarriage or ectopic pregs n go on to have healthy full term pregs m babies. All u can do is take it one step at a time which is what it sounds like ur doing.

Just get as much rest as possible n spend time with loved ones n before u know it ul have u period n then ul see ur specialist.

Its the waiting is hard n staying positive but u can do it n it will all come good.

Exactly n wen u go back to work it will help u to occupy ur mind more.

I hope u are ok. Nicola & butterfly I hope ur ok too x x x

Nicola1720
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Kate - I'm sure it will come around quickly and I know going back to work won't be easy but like you say it keeps you occupied. I can't believe how close we are to Easter and that's my half way point for blood test results so I'll be glad when that's here. Plus I can indulge in lots of chocolate too.

It's our due date next month (8th April) where we got to 8+4 so I know I'm going to find that hard especially as I thought if I was pregnant it would be easier to cope with and I won't be. I'm not sure what to do. I have a candle and an ornament that says your wings were ready but my heart was not to sit the candle on but I've kept my diary clear but I don't know what to do. I don't want to sit an home feeling sorry for myself and I thought maybe I'll go out for a nice lunch with my husband but I feel like I shouldn't be out enjoying myself either?! Silly I know and I don't think whatever I do it will feel right. Xx

Keeponhoping
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Well seen as Easter will be your half way point for blood results, it would be wrong not to celebrate it with lots of chocolate!

my due date was the 9th of April for my second loss, i remember now being a day behind you! But now I've experienced this loss at 10+3, my second loss seems pretty insignificant as that pregnancy just resulted in a blighted ovum so i never saw the baby, but i will feel very sad in September as this baby had a heartbeat and was growing and was clearly there! So i know exactly how you're feeling Nicola, when i think about this loss i get that awful feeling in my stomach and will never forget those words ' i cannot find a heartbeat' from the sonographer, think that will haunt me forever as the room was dead silent, awful!

That candle sounds beautiful, brings tears to my eyes. I think a day out with your husband would be lovely, even if it was just a nice walk, a certain place that has special meaning for you both. X x

Nicola1720
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Thanks Kate. Those words haunt me too as we had so much hope after the 6 week scan and seeing a heartbeat to having it all suddenly taken away. We've planed a walk and decided to have an afternoon tea in a little cafe then we can go back home and light our candle and just be together.

Our loss at Christmas was due the 8th but as that didn't even result in a scan or any appointments with the hospital I feel that's not going to be as difficult, there's something about seeing something very much alive that suddenly isn't that makes it so incredibly hard. I hope by September you are well past the 12 week point and whilst it will be hard, hopefully that will make it a little easier. I don't know when we will be able to try again, I'm hoping May but we won't know until we have some results I guess. Xx

Keeponhoping
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Well we'll get our results on the 8th of may, see what he says first of all and go from there! You never know Nicola, we maybe days apart expecting again! I'm trying to be positive for us both!

Everything you've said is so true and i can relate to it so much, so hard to see something alive, then not, it's truly heartbreaking and hard to describe to people who haven't been through it. I will never forget this particular loss, it will stay with me forever, because of seeing it alive and growing but hopefully time and a new life in the future will be a healer and for you also.

Your day sounds a lovely way of remembering your precious Angel. Meaningful walks are always the best and being together is the most important to get through this.

Hope you're ok, sending love and hugs. X x

Nicola1720
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That would be good wouldn't it if that happened. Be nice to go through all the good stuff together after having all the bad. Here's to hopefully feeling more positive and things going right for us from now onwards.

I've started walking a lot more recently and I've found it's a great way to destress and relax so will continue with that and like you say it will be nice to go somewhere meaningful on the 8th.

My Mum is convinced I'll fall pregnant in May with a girl so if she right I'll happily take that as long as it all works out ok. Xx

Keeponhoping
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At some point our little beans will stick! Exactly, as long as all turns out ok, that's the main thing! Oooh, can't wait to see if your mum is right, some people can sense these things, can't they! If she is right, i hope I'm not far behind you in may! Fingers crossed! X x

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