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Sorry it’s taken me a while to reply. Time is flying by.
I am 35 weeks tomorrow and finishing work next week which is crazy. I see the midwife tomorrow too so hopefully all is ok.
I saw the consultant after our last message and they were really good. He said more than happy for me to try a natural birth if baby is head down so they are going to scan me at 38 weeks to check and put a plan in place for that or for **-section if not. Last time I saw the midwife though she said she was sure baby was head down and I’ve been getting what feels like kicks near my ribs so I’m really hopeful.
Sorry to hear Arielle wasn’t well, it’s so awful to see them poorly and such a worry too. I hope she’s much better now. Have you seen the peditrician yet? She’s always been little so hopefully it’s just that, if she’s eating and we’ll in herself it’s just normal for her I’m sure.
That’s good news on the nursery. I will keep my fingers crossed she can start there in January.
It must be Arielles birthday soon? Is it next week? I remember you going quite overdue with her. Are you doing anything nice for her birthday?
Poppy is much better now. She started waking up at night after being unwell and wasn’t going back to sleep for 2-3 hours which was so hard. She’s settled again now but she’s waking up at 5am now and I’m worried that when the clocks go back it will be even earlier. Hopefully if we put her to bed later then that will help. I am not sure I can manage getting up with her at 4/5am after doing all the night feeds as my husband will be at work.
Anyway. Hope you are all ok and speak soon. Xx
So going by the date you wrote Ur last message you must be 37 weeks preg now and just started Ur maternity leave.
Wow it seems to have flown by with Ur pregnancy... How are you feeling? How was Ur last day at work?
How did your last midwife appointment go? How's u? Bubba and Poppy?
I know ul still be looking after Poppy but I hope you can get more rest now Ur in leave.
Oh that's great news they are saying that you may be able to have natural birth and that Ur baby's head is down. I really hope you are able to. That's a great sign Ur feeling baby's feet in Ur ribs, i know it's uncomfortable. But I remember having that with Elle towards last few weeks of my pregnancy.
Fingers crossed for you, let me know how you are.. when is Ur due date?
I'm going to send this msg in parts to you coz I sent you a long reply n it wouldn't send so I'm sending it in small parts instead n also Elle is lively n jumping over me.. so il continue my reply in a bit....
We have had a letter for her to see a pedestrian but it's 3 months away not until 27th January is ages away.
She is eating a lot better & still tiny but I think she's gained a little bit of weight. She's been pooing most days for past 2 wks and even went 6 days In a row is really good for her. I think it's coz she's started to eat bit more.
She still has her meds reg twice a day for it coz it still hurts her to go.
Yesterday n day before she was in pain most of the day with constipation and both days she pooed 5 times small amounts n cause of it last night I couldn't put her to bed til 11pm she was asleep. It wears her out n affects her eating wen it's so constant n painful for her.
So I online given her meds once today coz it's too much how she's been going do much last two days. She's been a lot better today n still managed to go once but it still hurt her to go.
I think I'm going to take her back to docs about it coz its too low to just wait 3 months til she sees a pedestrian n I think she may need another medicine sling with the I've she's taken coz even thou it helps her she's still been in too much pain with it...
Yea I hope Ur right that Elle is just naturally small is all it is. But I do still worry re her weight sometimes but try not to.
Thanks I do still hope Elle can start Nursery in January but she has to be potty trained n I'm am trying with her but it's hard when she's constipated she don't want to sit on it.
But like today she's been ok so shel sit on it if I give her stickers or a chocolate & let her look at books or watch the TV or my tablet whilst on the potty.
But she does not go when she needs to go n panics n goes gets a nappy for me to put on her. It's like she gets scared wen she needs to go n won't sit on the potty then..
If she's not ready to go in Jan coz of potty training hopefully shel be able to start bit later like the next term in April.
I haven't started looking for work yet coz I can't work until Elle's at nursery so I'm trying to concentrate on potty training her. Plus I can't send her to nursery with bad constipation, coz web she's in pain she crys n wants to be held.
Hopefully it will all work it's self out coz even if she was to start at nursery for 15 hrs per week, I would get the funding for that. It wouldn't affect me not working straight away then to get Arielle 30 hrs funding... n would give her time to settle in...
You have seen that Tommy arrived on 4th November (the time has flown by) and he’s now 9 weeks. I got my natural birth too. It was so hard as I was in labour for 24 hours but only allowed to actively push for two hours because of my c-section so ended up having an episiotomy to get him out as he was stuck. I wasn’t even allowed gas and air as they were trying to get me to focus on the pushing. It was so hard but he was worth it and weighed a whopping 9lb 4oz and he was 2 weeks early!
He wasn’t very well a few weeks back and ended up in hospital on oxygen and a feeding tube as he got a bad cold and being so little was struggling to fight it, thankfully he’s doing really well now.
How’s Arielle doing? I saw she started nursery. Have you had any luck with a job? I bet it’s really weird being away from her isn’t it?. Is she doing ok with the potty training?
I hope you are doing ok. Sorry it’s taken so long to reply, I don’t know where the days go. Xx
How are things with you & Tommy & Poppy. It must be lovely having two babies so close in age but really hard too.
I'm so sorry to hear Tommy was in hospital before, poor baby. I'm so glad he's a lot better now. It mustive been really emotional for you.
Arielle is doing well thanks, she has a cold & cough which she's had for couple weeks which I think she got from nursery & we all have now. Its taking ages to go. I think I may take her docs next week if her cough don't go as it affects her more at night n iv been giving her cough medicine last few days.
She's enjoying nursery & settled in quite quickly I think.. She's been there 4 weeks now. It was hard at the beginning but it was more her first day there, cause even thou I stayed about 20 minutes with her til she was OK and playing with playdough with her teacher, n I felt bit lost wen I left her and couldn't wait til I collected her. But it was hard wen I collected her cause she had been crying for a while when I arrived & I gave her a big hug & she was clinging to me for a while & crying in my arms for while so it took a while to calm her down n I felt bad for having left her there.
But since she's adjusted really well there n enjoys it. She always says she doesn't want to go in the morning's but she's stopped crying when I leave her n her teachers tell me how she's been fine there n I can tell she's more confident there n happy when I come back for her. She always makes me Carry her into nursery but she goes to her teacher so that's reasurring for me.
She's only there for 3 hrs n it takes a while to walk there so I only have about 2 hrs at home before I collect her. It goes fast cause I'm usually tidying up, going shopping n going post office for my bf cause he has a second job where he sells blue rays from home so always getting me to post them there when he's at work.
It is nice to have little time to myself n reasurring knowing Elle enjoys nursery. I have started looking for jobs but haven't found one yet. I need to find one to fit around Elle's nursery hrs n term time only. She does 15 hrs per week there now but can do 30 hrs wen I'm working. So hopefully I'll find a job t start by April so then I would be able to get 30 hrs funding for it then as April is next time you can get 30 hrs nursery funding.
Elle's doing really well with potty training thanks.. Its like she waited til she was 3 and learnt it quickly. She'll only poo in a pull up thou I think cause it still scary for her where she's still on meds to help her go poo. So she'll go most eves n ask for nappy so cause of that I think it will take longer til she'll go on the potty.
We are doing well thou thank u.
How are you, Poppy and Tommy? I hope ur all well. How are Poppy n Tommy together? I love ur photos of them togetu on fb so cute.
Happy birthday to ur beautiful Poppy I can't believe she's two already. I hope you all have a lovely day together today x x x
How is everyone else on here, I hope u are all well x x
Sorry I haven’t replied for so long, I didn’t even realise it had been that long!
We are all well thank you. Tommy is 6 months now! I can’t believe it. He’s a delight though, other than waking up every hour at night. Poppy absolutely loves him too. She is so grown up now although we’ve definitely started the terrible 2s and she has a few tantrums when she doesn’t get her own way.
How are you and how is Arielle? How have you all found being stuck at home? I guess you didn’t find a job before all this started. Poppy has been told she can go back to nursery from 1st June. Does Arielles open again and will she go?
So lovely Tiffany has had a baby girl too and she’s home and doing well.
I will try and check this more regularly now.
Take care xx
I want to thank all of you ladies for sharing your stories I have found it so comforting during a really hard time and I’m so so happy for everyone and their babies! I had a pregnancy of unknown location feb 2020 treated with methotrexate and then I just had another miscarriage at 5 weeks before any heartbeat was detected. I’m really really down and trying to find any answers or stories similar to mine and justkeephoping and Nicola I feel like I’m in a similar situation to you guys. I’m not sure if you guys still check this but if you do can you share with me any advice or testing you received after visiting specialists that helped you to have successful pregnancy? I’m trying to get some tests done before trying again, I’m so scared something bad will happen again. Congrats again to everyone and any information or advice would be appreciated. Thanks again to all of you ladies for sharing your stories <3
I had the same as you, 1st ectopic, 2nd was a miscarriage unfortunately my 3rd was an ectopic again.
I haven’t had any tests or help from doctors.
Even this time being the 3rd I have just been discharged & no follow up nothing afterwards.
I had already been referred to a fertility clinic before my 3rd pregnancy but because of Covid all the appointments are on hold & ive recently been told it’s unlikely I’ll be seen this year at 36 this is a huge knock back as time is not on my side.
I would like to know aswell what people have done to get tests or have a successful pregnancy, I feel like I did everything right on the 3rd one, had been taken pregnacare for months previously, as soon as I knew I was pregnant I rested & didn’t do anything (we were also in lockdown so helped as nothing to do) I eat healthily & am active.
I am in limbo now with only 1 tube left & no sign of an appointment I don’t no what I should be doing???
Sorry I haven’t been on for a while - I locked myself out of my account so I’ve had to set up a new one.
Sorry to hear of the 2 ladies who have had eptopic and miscarriages recently.
Did you get your appointment in August?
It’s so hard but we lost 3 pregnancies and I have 2 beautiful children now. Please don’t give up because it will happen.