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Going back to work
Going back to work
I had my keyhole surgery operation bout four weeks ago. Still got a bit of pain. I was 7 weeks pregnant. Went for scan got told I had miscarried. Got bloods done they were going up. Had bleeding and pain. I ended up in a and e in agony. After a scan the pregnancy had ruptured had to get op.
I don't know if I am emotionally ready to go back to work. I'm a very happy person normally and I know if I go back and in not ppl will ask questions. Any advice appreciated x x
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Just take whatever time you need, if you don't feel ready - you're obviously not ready. At the same time it may help to try to get back to normal. Do you not have anyone at work that you can confide in and ask them to spread the word not to ask too many questions?
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I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You have also had to process the loss of your baby and been through an immense rollercoaster of emotions - all of this will take time to come to terms with.
You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
In general, after six weeks you should be able to return to most jobs from a physical point of view, but many women need to take more time off to help them deal with the psychological (emotional) impact of the loss of their baby and the frightening experience they felt being diagnosed with and treated for an ectopic pregnancy. Please do not hesitate to contact your GP to ask for further time off work if needed.
We are all here here for you for as long as you need,
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Re: Going back to work
Sorry for your loss.
I went back to work after 2 weeks. I felt fine physically and most days I am fine emotionally. I have days now when something will upset me and I am now 9 weeks post op.
I think being at work distracted me and nobody really asked to many questions.
Everyone is different and you have to go back when you are ready.
Amy
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I am also a teacher (but secondary) and when I went back to work after my ectopic in May 2016 I had exactly the same feelings. My head was great and let me come back slowly- I did one lesson a day for a few days before going in full time. It was hard the first time I saw each class as they asked questions but I just changed the subject and they quickly forgot I had been away (I missed most of a half term). I saw a councillor at my hospital for about 6 months and I found this really helped. I went into a long period of avoiding social situations as I found baby talk etc so differcult to deal with- talking about these feelings with her really helped me. I just wanted to share what helped me as the feelings you describe are exactly how I have felt.
I have since been blessed with a baby which I had started to think would never happen (I had a miscarriage prior to the ectopic). Returning to school was the start of a long journey for me and I remember driving home from work crying most days but it very slowly started to get easier and I am testament to the fact it can happen. Sorry for rambling on. Sending love x
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Hope others stories can give you hope. Statistics are on your side for conceiving again.
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