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Suffering a scar ectopic

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Georgiemo5
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Suffering a scar ectopic

Post by Georgiemo5 »

Hey, I have recently suffered a scar ectopic pregnancy which I have found hard to deal with . My emotions are all over the place and I don’t think it has helped I broke up with my partner of 4 years a week before I found out .
He wasn’t supportive at all and still hasn’t contacted me about it .
I have a lot of friends and family who have supported me but he is the only person I feel that I needed .
He has blocked me and wants no contact with me . Is there any help or tips from people that can help me move on and stop feeling so down and upset about it all
Thank you

Sanwars2206
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Re: Suffering a scar ectopic

Post by Sanwars2206 »

Hi Georgiomo5

I’m so sorry you’ve been through your ectopic & had the break up to deal with aswell.
I think this is a really good place to share with people who understand & are going through the same thing.
Time is the best thing to heal you physically, mentally & emotionally.
There are lots of people & posts on here that have been able to move on & heal with time, if you read through some other posts these should help you & hopefully give you the inspiration you’re looking for.
X

EPT Host 20
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Re: Suffering a scar ectopic

Post by EPT Host 20 »

Dear Georgiomo5,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss and of the difficult time you are going through.
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.

Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need. I found comfort in reading others posts. I didn't feel so alone in how I was feeling. I was also advised to try counselling, which I did. Following this, I understood that although I would never forget my pregnancy or baby, I learnt to accept what had happened and crucially understand that it wasn't my fault.

Although your feelings at this stage a very normal, if the sad days start to outweigh the good, we at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there's no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We'll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.

In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for "talking therapies" or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services.

The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/

Above all be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally and I would suggest surrounding yourself with people who love you like your family and friends.

These boards are a safe space to share, ask questions, or to vent. They are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and journeys, and we are here for you for as long as you need.

Sending much love,
Karen x

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