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Due date of unplanned Ectopic pregnancy

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LP1990
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Joined: Tue Nov 12, 2019 11:38 pm

Due date of unplanned Ectopic pregnancy

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Hello,
I’ve never posted on here before. I had an Ectopic in November 2019. I didn’t know I was pregnant and hadn’t been trying to get pregnant. I was on the pill. I went to A&E with stomach pain then was shocked when they told me I was pregnant. We weren’t in a position to have a baby financially and so we were very unsure if we would even keep it...
Hours went by and they thought it was a threatened miscarriage and they would probably send me home depending on my next lot of results. I was admitted to hospital to await a scan (at this point I had been in A&E for 6 hours) another three hours went by the pain was unbearable I was crying and struggling to breathe.
I had a scan. They couldn’t see anything due to my abdomen being filled with blood. I was then rushed to surgery.
They removed my right tube and baby. I was 7 weeks.

I would have been due this month around this week. I was never given an exact date but I worked it out to be around now. I am filled with so many mixed emotions. I feel I have no right to feel sad for a baby I may not even have wanted. In hindsight I know I wouldn’t have been able to terminate. So I could have been giving birth this week. I could have a baby. It’s so difficult to comprehend.

I don’t know what I’m looking for just really feeling it today :(

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Re: Due date of unplanned Ectopic pregnancy

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Dear LP1990,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss, even in unplanned pregnancies, going through ectopic pregnancy is extremely hard for most women and it doesn't stop you from mourning the loss of your baby.
Anniversaries such as due dates can be especially hard as they can be stark reminders of what happened to us. Eleven years on and I still get emotional around the anniversary of my ectopic pregnancy.
Be kind to yourself, allow time to grieve and heal emotionally. We will be here for you for as long as you need,
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x

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LP1990
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Joined: Tue Nov 12, 2019 11:38 pm

Re: Due date of unplanned Ectopic pregnancy

Post by LP1990 »

Thank you. It’s nice to know I am not alone and my feelings are valid. Sometimes I don’t feel like I am allowed.
I’ve lit a candle and had a cry 😢 I hope it will get easier.

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