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I feel like a fraud
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I feel like a fraud
Re: I feel like a fraud
I also didn’t have much physical pain when I went through mine a couple months ago. Like you, I had a lot of spotting and also like you the doctors initially said ectopic wasn’t likely because of the lack of pain. Fast forward a week and a half from speaking with the GP for the third time and my hormones were over 5000 and I had emergency surgery to remove my right tube. It hadn’t burst but was on the verge and my abdomen was filled with blood. I guess my point is that it’s better to be safe and monitored. I also knew something wasn’t right and thankfully didn’t allow my hopes to get too high but at the same time was emotionally crushed by it. It’s confusing and hard even if you physically feel ok. You’re by no means a fraud. I’m sorry this is happening to you and I hope it can be managed without surgery for you.
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Re: I feel like a fraud
I’ve had 2 ectopics & haven’t had any pain through either. The only way I knew was because I bled dark blood.
The docs & nurses who treated me both times didn’t take pain as a given symptom so treated me straight away.
Such a shame the pain symptom has given such importance in this circumstance & uve been made to feel like this.
I had 1x ectopic treated with methotrexate & 1x surgery so pain or no pain uve had an ectopic & need to process it in ur own way & in ur own time.
Take care x
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Re: I feel like a fraud
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
You certainly are not a fraud but it is true that we can feel a mix of emotions after experiencing ectopic pregnancy.
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal. There is no time frame for recovery and you will have good and bad days, but you should in no way feel guilty for anything that you feel.
I too found that while well meaning, my friends and family didn't truly understand how I felt and it can be quite isolating. These boards are a safe space to share, ask questions, or to vent. They are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and journeys, and we are here for you for as long as you need.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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