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Day after surgery
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Day after surgery
Re: Day after surgery
Just wanted to say that I’ve been through those exact feelings you are currently going through last weekend after having an eptopic pregnancy. The depression, grieve, anger, Blaming yourself, all of those feelings are natural and relevant to time. Feel those feelings and cry those tears in order to move on. Trust me I know it is rough and not an easy pill to swallow but you can and you will get through this and go on to have successful pregnancies!
Sending you love and light .
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Re: Day after surgery
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss, by your own words, I can imagine how frightening this must have been for you and I am so sorry you have had to go through this.
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
As you have been through such a devastating experience, if will take time to come to terms with what has happened. You are still in the early days of recovery and are physically and emotionally needing to heal. This is normal and please do allow time to grieve. Panic attacks and flash backs can be symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder and, while feeling upset is very normal after such a scary experience, if you find you are still struggling on a daily basis after about four weeks, please do speak to your doctors about how you have been feeling.
Following surgery, you should take it very easily for about six weeks. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body's signals and pain and feeling tired are your body's signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
I know that when I had my ectopic pregnancy I also looked for a reason and almost automatically we tend to blame ourselves. From the bottom of my heart, there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy from happening. I cannot emphasise enough - you are not to blame. Please be kind to yourself and I send you gentle hugs.
Karen x
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Re: Day after surgery
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I am currently right there with you. I was given metotrexate on June 15th, and ultimately had to go in for surgery about 10 days later for removal of my left tube.
It is ok to be sad, angry, frustrated, etc. The situation is awful. It is devastating. And as much as this won't help - you couldn't have done anything. There's no fault, it just happens which sucks.
Take care of yourself. Accept help and support. I have found chatting on here very helpful. You will come out the other side.
Sending lots of love and positivity to you.