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Still struggling after ectopic and seeing pregnancy announcements

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Still struggling after ectopic and seeing pregnancy announcements

Post by mcxop23 »

Hi I’ve been reading others forums for a while now and decided to make one myself, I had an ectopic pregnancy back in February this year after trying for around 4 months this was a devastating time for me and still upsets me to this day, I find it hard because I don’t have many people to talk to about this and I am seeing a lot of pregnancy announcements lately which I am finding very triggering to my grief, I have been actively trying for another baby going in to the 6th month now and nothing seems to be happening I know six months isn’t long in the grand scheme of things but pre ectopic my periods were every 28 days like clock work and now they are so scattered each month anywhere from 26-32 days I feel like the ectopic has changed my body in some negative way did anyone else notice a change in there cycle after the ectopic? I am just getting so fed up ttc and the whole world seems to be getting pregnant I am beginning to think this isn’t meant to be I guess I’m just looking for some support and am wondering how long it took others to conceive after they actively started trying after there ectopic? I’m just so upset and down about everything I just don’t understand why it’s not happening for me

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Re: Still struggling after ectopic and seeing pregnancy announcements

Post by Ectopicrecovery »

I'm in the same boat, just a few months behind you.I had my ectopic in October and I seem to be surrounded by pregnancy announcements too at the moment. We need to stay positive and trust our time will come. It's hard though, I had a cry today when all the Christmas music came on the radio and I imagined how this would have been the time I should have been announcing too. Did you have surgery?

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Re: Still struggling after ectopic and seeing pregnancy announcements

Post by EPT Host 22 »

Hi mcxop23,

I am so sorry that you have suffered an ectopic pregnancy. I'm glad that you've found these boards and felt comfortable sharing your story. Putting yourself first right now and looking after your health and wellness is important. I know it can be difficult, and we want things to move quickly and resume our normal life. An ectopic pregnancy is a physical and emotional trauma, and it's natural to want it to pass.

It's very natural to feel anxious about ttc after an ectopic pregnancy. Anxious over what might happen and what might not. It's difficult to wait each month to see if you are pregnant, and I know that waiting and expectation can take their toll.
There are so many factors that contribute to becoming pregnant. It may provide some comfort to know that it is usually possible to conceive successfully after having an ectopic pregnancy, though the time it generally takes varies considerably from couple to couple. Approximately 65 percent of women are healthily pregnant within 18 months of ectopic pregnancy, and some studies show this rises to around 85 percent after two years.

I found that the first few months were the hardest, as I didn’t fully understand why it happened to me. Slowly, the darkest clouds lifted, and I began to have some okay days and even some good days again sometimes. Recovery is not always a smooth path, however. With time, though, I began to accept what had happened, and although we never forget, it is something that is a part of us that we learn to live with.

No matter what, we are here for you whenever you need us. Please know you are not alone and take all the time you need to look after yourself and recover. We are here for you whenever you want to talk.

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