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Had surgery yesterday, just hit me today what's happened

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Pennylaneylady
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Had surgery yesterday, just hit me today what's happened

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Hello,

So I had surgery yesterday morning and I really don't think I processed what was going on until I woke up today.

I've a history of 5 previous miscarriages and this ectopic was fortunately caught before a rupture of the tube although I had cysts rupture? I think it just hot me that, despite trying to have a child for that last 4 years my chances are now lower? Apparently I had lots of adhesions they removed some of them but I'm just heart broken. I feel physical pain and now today the emotion just hit me when I woke up. Its my birthday a week today and I'll be 36. I feel like the universe is trying to tell me I'll never have kids but I want a child so bad. I think we will look at adoption.

Has anyone hear had a successful pregnancy after years of trying amd an ectopic? I need some hope. I need some light in the darkness I feel. I do feel incredibly lucky to be here.

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Re: Had surgery yesterday, just hit me today what's happened

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Dear Pennylaneylady,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and losses. To experience one loss is difficult, to deal with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.
Sadly with ectopic pregnancy there is a round a 10% reduction in fertility birthday does mean a 90% chance of a successful pregnancy. We do hear from women who successfully conceive following multiple losses. With your multiple losses however, I would suggest referral to a fertility specialist if you haven't already who maybe able to.advise further. If course adoption is a route too and we do hear from women/families who chose to adopt rather than to try to conceive naturally again.

When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it's treatment, reduction in fertility and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.

Generally speaking, should take it very easy for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time so please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others. One day you may be okay and the next you may be in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body signals. Pain and feeling tired are your body signals to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy diet drinking lots of water and resting.

Above all be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally.
Sending much love,
Karen x

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