Remembering my lost..picking a date?

[AysMama]

Hi all,
Thankful to have found this forum..this is a really dumb question, but it appears to be how I’m coping and I keep thinking about it.
I had an ectopic last month, began showing signs July 2, was treated with MTX July 25, had my last HCG when it dropped below 5 on Aug 7.
I’ve been seeing people do remembrances like the tulips and having specific dates on them. I guess my question is, how do you pick your remembrance date if you had MTX since there isn’t necessarily a specific date like if I’d had surgery? Or do most people choose their expected due date and not their.. day of loss, for lack of a better term?
Again, I know this sounds bonkers but I want to pick a day for my little bean and I can’t decide how..

[EPT Host 22]

Hi AysMama,

I am so sorry to hear that you have suffered this ectopic pregnancy and loss. Your recovery journey is unique to you, and it's important to honour it in a way which feels best to you. Choosing a date which represents the part of the journey you want to commemorate is one way forward, perhaps the joy of the date you found out, the day of loss, or the expectation of the due date. There is no right or wrong way and can change with time if you want it to.

We are here for you throughout this journey, all united by these unfortunate experiences.

With good wishes,

Michele


The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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[ChaoticBlues]

Hey,

I just wanted to say you really don't sound bonkers at all and anyone going or gone through what you have will totally get it.

My ectopic was last december, I had my mxt injection just before Xmas and it took 10 long weeks to get to a hcg of 0, 12 weeks in total of bleeding and pain.

The way I wanted to remember it was in a poem, to get my feelings become more real, capture something that would live on, the poem is in this forum. I had a chemical pregnancy last month, totally different experience physically nowhere near the toll or pain of an ectopic and I didn't really feel like marking it I mean I took photo of my felt board saying I was pregnant but that's it. Everyone and experience is different.

Hi all,
Thankful to have found this forum..this is a really dumb question, but it appears to be how I’m coping and I keep thinking about it.
I had an ectopic last month, began showing signs July 2, was treated with MTX July 25, had my last HCG when it dropped below 5 on Aug 7.
I’ve been seeing people do remembrances like the tulips and having specific dates on them. I guess my question is, how do you pick your remembrance date if you had MTX since there isn’t necessarily a specific date like if I’d had surgery? Or do most people choose their expected due date and not their.. day of loss, for lack of a better term?
Again, I know this sounds bonkers but I want to pick a day for my little bean and I can’t decide how..