The EPT’s Partners’ Voices

13 Jun 2023 | By Kerri

A partner’s perspective

The EPT offers group Zoom support sessions to anyone who has been affected by an ectopic pregnancy. Often these are attended by the woman or person who has experienced the loss and sometimes they are joined by their partner. This is very welcome and it is important to offer a shared space for those who would like it. 


We recognise that this shared space may not feel right for all partners and they may need a space just for themselves. This is ok.  



There may be thoughts and feelings that partners want to express without fear of saying “the wrong thing”. This is understandable.  



With much of the focus being on the woman or person, partners may feel that they have to manage their emotions alone. This does not have to be the case.  



While you have not physically gone through the ectopic pregnancy, we recognise that there may be a significant emotional impact for you. This is valid. 

Here are a few common questions that we hear from partners

  • “How can I support my partner?” 
  • “My loved one and I are thinking and feeling different things”. 
  • “What I did/didn’t do during diagnosis and treatment and what ‘should’ I have done?” 
  • “I feared greatly for my loved one’s safety during diagnosis and treatment.” 
  • “I feel a sense of loss of the pregnancy.” 
  • “I did not feel ‘connected’ to the pregnancy.”  
  • “I am so relieved that my loved one is ok and focusing on that.” 
  • “No one asks me how I am feeling.” 
  • “I feel quite isolated.”  
  • “I would like to be intimate with my loved one but do not know how to approach it.” 
  • “Our relationship is not the same.” 
  • “My mental health has been impacted.”  

…And many other thoughts…  


Some of these may be familiar to you. Chances are you are not the only one thinking and feeling this way. Whatever you are going through, we are here to help you navigate your journey. 

How we can help partners to talk about their experience

We offer a dedicated group Zoom support session for partners. These groups enable partners to connect with others who have been alongside a loved one going through an ectopic pregnancy. There is the chance to talk among others who have been through similar, in a safe space, without judgement.  This space is inclusive for all partners, of any gender, sexual orientation, and relationship status. 

To join one of our dedicated Zoom groups for partners, please contact us at


If you would like to know more about what to expect when joining one of our Zoom support groups, read more here. 


We hope that connecting and sharing experiences with other partners can bring some comfort. 

Let us know what you think

We would like to hear from you. We value your views on what more we can do to support partners through this challenging time. We would like to set up an engagement group consisting of partners to help shape our services. If you would like to be involved with this project, please complete this online form.

Our next dedicated partners’ virtual support group will be held on Tuesday 20 June, 12 – 1.30pm. Please email to secure your space.

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