On Friday 25 November 2022 my partner, Callum, and I found out that I was pregnant;
The news we had been waiting for, for a while. We had been trying for some time, so you can imagine how happy and excited we both were. It just felt like there was hope especially as I was diagnosed with Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS: a condition that affects how a woman’s ovaries work).
Monday 28 November, I started getting excruciating pains in my lower belly and started to bleed quite a bit. I had shoulder pain, and I knew something was not right, so I got an appointment with the doctor on Wednesday 30 November. At the appointment my doctor referred us straight to hospital, he told us to go right away! So, we did.
Callum and I waited in the emergency department for hours, as you do – we’ve all been there at some point! I then had an internal (transvaginal) ultrasound scan and they told me it was bad news.
I was going through an ectopic pregnancy at 5 weeks, and it had ruptured. I was told it was life threatening and that I had to have an urgent laparoscopy (keyhole surgery) and salpingectomy to remove one of my Fallopian tubes.
The shock and feelings Callum and I had when that doctor told us, I cannot even explain! We both just burst out crying with so much emotion. I had my surgery on 30 November at 6pm, it was a long recovery process physically and mentally.
One of the only things in my life that I’ve ever really wanted is to be a mum and to have a family of my own, raise them and make memories. When that gets given to you and then taken away in a matter of days it’s truly heartbreaking. As a woman to go through the emotional trauma as well as the physical side of it all is extremely hard.
I feel it’s so important for women to know about ectopic pregnancies and to be aware of them, because around 1 in 80 pregnancies are ectopic. Not only can they be life threatening, but it really affects your mental health and the way you view life. I heard about ectopic pregnancy, but I had no idea what the symptoms were or what it meant.
On 16 June 2023, we started trying for a baby again. I was so nervous, scared, and excited all at the same time! Just two weeks later I took a pregnancy test, and I saw two very clear lines develop in the test window! I cried, my partner cried, and we just could not believe what we were seeing. It all seemed like a dream.
I was so scared and I prepared myself for the worst after what happened with my ruptured ectopic pregnancy! I had an early scan at 6 weeks. I can’t express the feeling of relief and hope we felt when she said the baby was in the right place and not in the Fallopian tube. I just cried so many happy tears.
The pregnancy wasn’t easy, and we had a few scares come our way but one whole year later and we had a healthy happy beautiful little miracle. A baby girl called Amira Rosa, she is now nearly 5 months old and is the most amazing, beautiful little bundle of joy.
I just wanted to share my experience with everybody because it’s so important to raise awareness and to let people know that there is hope and miracles can happen.
Thank you to Ayse for sharing her experience with us. If you would like to share your experience of ectopic pregnancy, please visit our guide for more information.
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