Christmas and New Year activities often centre around coming together with family and friends and this may involve a particular focus on young children. Social media may become flooded with photos of Father Christmas visits, party gatherings, and decorating Christmas trees, which can act as a heartbreaking reminder of what could have been. It may bring a further sense of loss and isolation. However you may be feeling, we remind that you are not alone and we have a space for you among our understanding community.
Be kind to yourself
Your feelings may change throughout the festive period and it is important to remember that this is perfectly normal. There is no rulebook to navigating Christmas and emotions can change from one moment to the next.
Grief and processing the impacts of ectopic pregnancy doesn’t look the same for everyone; what may work for one person may not for the next. Being kind to yourself, practicing self-care and communicating with those who love and support you can help alleviate those feelings. This may mean reducing the demands on your time, stepping away from social media for a while, or creating new traditions over the holiday period.
Whether you choose to create new traditions or bypass Christmas festivities altogether, we have some thoughts about how you can commemorate your pregnancy on our website. In addition to this, some of The EPT team and our supporters have shared what has helped them cope over Christmas in previous years:
The anniversary of our ectopic is also around Christmas. Dedicating an EPT Treasured Tulip and seeing our little one’s date written was a source of comfort. Just remember there is no right or wrong way to get through it. -Kerri
Having a balance of time alone but also time with family. Don’t completely shut yourself off. – Anon
Your baubles gave me so much comfort and reflection. – Judy
You are not alone
Having a safe space to turn to when things begin to start feeling overwhelming can be a powerful support. Whether your support group includes a friend, family member, your partner, or The EPT’s community, we encourage you to draw upon what you need when things are challenging.
Below we have detailed information about where you can find support over the festive period.
Our call-back support line and email services are available until Thursday 23 December, 2pm. Between 24 December – 9 January, messages will be answered as soon as possible. The EPT’s normal service will resume from 10 January. If you experience symptoms of ectopic pregnancy or complications following treatment, you must not wait for a reply and seek medical attention from health care professionals as soon as possible.
Support networks and information over the holidays can be found on our Facebook groups and online discussion forums:
Facebook Closed Group: Anyone on Facebook is able to find the group to request access, but only those in the group are able to see who is in it and view posts.
EPT Online Forums: Our Facebook group is not designed to replace our online forums which can provide you with greater privacy and anonymity as well as access to information and support. Our forums put you in direct contact with others who have been affected by ectopic pregnancy.
Mind has information about mental health to help you or someone you love that is struggling with baby loss.
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust