I experienced a ruptured tubal ectopic pregnancy in March 2023, resulting in emergency surgery to remove the pregnancy and my left Fallopian tube.
The night after my surgery in hospital I spent hours scrolling through the internet trying to find stories that had a happy ending and struggled to find many. I hoped that if I ever got a happy ending then I would share my story to give hope to others in the same situation.
So now here I am two years later with my miracle baby girl asleep on my chest. It was almost a year to the day of my ruptured ectopic surgery when we found out I was pregnant with our lovely daughter who was born in December 2024. She is the most beautiful thing in the world and we are so in love with our gorgeous girl.
In March 2023 we found out we were pregnant and were so excited but within a few days knew something was wrong. I had unusual bleeding, seen my GP and was repeatedly told it’s a miscarriage it will pass. It didn’t, the bleeding continued and I was finally sent to the Early pregnancy assessment unit, where I was finally diagnosed with a ruptured ectopic and needed emergency surgery. I didn’t really have any other symptoms so was shocked to hear how bad it was.
After the surgery I remember feeling ok physically but just so upset. Words cannot describe the sadness and heartbreak. We started trying again as soon as we could as we desperately wanted to start a family. This went on for a year and then almost to the day of the one year anniversary of my ectopic surgery we found out we were pregnant with our baby girl. We were very nervous until the 6 week scan, but she was in the right place and we got to see her little heartbeat, it was just one of the best days I will always remember it. It was also the first time I’d seen my husband cry with happiness.
While we were so happy we couldn’t relax until she was safely here Earth-side because being through a pregnancy loss changes the way you think and we were nervous to let ourselves get excited.
Although it was an incredibly hard experience and we still sometimes wonder what that little baby could have been like, without it we wouldn’t have our beautiful daughter and dog- which I cannot imagine my life without them. They were always meant to be ours.
I like to think of our first little baby we lost as a guardian angel that helped us in our path to become better parents for our daughter. Being through something tough like an ectopic pregnancy makes you stronger and more appreciative of being pregnant and having a beautiful baby. I wish I could go back and tell myself on the hard days (for which there were many) to remain hopeful and that it can all work out and when it does you would not be able to imagine joy like it. So to anyone reading this in a similar situation I hope this gives you a bit of hope- because I know from experience that it goes a long way on the hard days.
If I could say one thing: I would say to go through an ectopic pregnancy is really awful. There’s treatment to endure, grieving of what could have been and worry over future fertility but I would say try and remain positive. The chances of a successful pregnancy are high and when you get there it is even more incredible than you could ever imagine.
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