I took a pregnancy test and it came up positive instantly. So we were absolutely over the moon so we decided lets other tests all positive but I was in pain and spotting and I had pain in my left shoulder not just at the tip but through out my full left shoulder and onto my neck area, so we decided we’d call the early pregnancy unit they told me to come in and get my bloods done and a scan.
I went in the day after for bloods and a scan they couldn’t find any viable pregnancy in the scan so they assumed an early miscarriage, so they called me with my blood results and said my hcg (human chorionic gonadotropin – pregnancy hormone) levels are low too low for anything to show up on a scan so we all still thought miscarriage.
I saw a consultant in the hospital and she said possible ectopic pregnancy but they said let’s do bloods every 48 hours for hcg (human chorionic gonadotropin – pregnancy hormone) tracking so I went in every 48 hours my levels were supposed to drop by 50% each time they weren’t dropping anywhere near that I went from 320 to 280 to 243 so they told me to come back in a week for more bloods so I did and they only dropped to 225 which isn’t good.
They called me and told me to go in the next day for another scan I was scanned externally and internally three times and they said we definitely think this is an ectopic pregnancy in your left Fallopian tube as when I was being scanned internally I was in a lot of pain especially to the left hand side but they also found a cyst or clot near my ovary they still haven’t mentioned why this may have been.
They gave me a choice of surgery or an injection of methotrexate, but the injection had so many cons instead of pros it could have possibly affect my bone marrow I could become really unwell I would have to be monitored, and it still may have led to surgery.
So I chose surgery so unfortunately, I was taken in for emergency surgery they removed my left Fallopian tube as they found the pregnancy in there but my Fallopian tube had already ruptured due to it not being found sooner.
They also found an old infection in my pelvis which has spread to my bladder bowel and liver and also looked at my other Fallopian tube which they found was clubbed which means its blocked and enlarged it doesn’t work anymore and its blocked with toxic fluid so I have to have another surgery arranged to have my right tube removed which means I’ll never had kids unless I have IVF (invitro fertilisation).
We can’t go for IVF (invitro fertilisation) until my other tube is removed, it’s been so awful from the start I had to choose what I wanted to do with the baby’s remains as in funeral, cremation etc I chose cremation of course but we’ve been left with so many unanswered questions which has led to us having to Google and find them out on our own.
They did give us a memorial box from the Simba charity with lovely support group cards inside there is a lot of lovely quotes inside they give you some sort of peace. a small tea light and two knitted small bears a butterfly and a small piece of knitted blanket material.
During this hard time my partner has been so amazingly strong.
If I could say one thing: your heart now carries both the ache of loss and the quiet power to heal
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