Ectopic Pregnancy Awareness Day: Your Words

This question has opened the door to honest, heartfelt, and often painful truths.

Here, people affected by ectopic pregnancy share what they wish others understood about the physical toll, the emotional aftermath, and the gaps in awareness that can leave people feeling isolated.

These are the things that often go unsaid, but shouldn’t.

What I wish more people knew about ectopic pregnancy is that just because the physical pain of having your Fallopian tube removed has faded and scars have started to heal, the emotional pain is still there a long time after.

– Natalie. Read more of Natalie’s words here.

What I wish more people knew about ectopic pregnancy is that, that waiting period (after medical management) was emotionally draining. Methotrexate also made me feel so unwell, completely wiped out, both physically and mentally. I didn’t feel like myself for a long time.

– Shelby. Read more of Shelby’s words here.

What I wish more people knew about ectopic pregnancy is it’s something that never goes away, life goes on but my ectopic pregnancy will always be my wonder who you could have been.

– Rachel. Read more of Rachel’s words here.

What I wish more people knew about ectopic pregnancy is that the loss isn’t just a statistic – it’s a real pain, a dream lost, needing time and kindness to heal. I also wish people understood that partners grieve too. My husband held his sorrow quietly while everyone focused on me. We need to make space for them, to share this journey with care and understanding.

– Katarzyna. Read more of Katarzyna’s words here.

What I wish more people knew about ectopic pregnancy is that it can kill you – not just your baby. I have never felt pain like it before, and I had no idea that shoulder pain could be linked to ectopic pregnancy. The first time I had one, I didn’t even know what an ectopic pregnancy was.

– Jayne. Read more of Jayne’s words here.

Ectopic pregnancy is not just a medical event – it can leave a lasting imprint on every part of life.

In this section, people share how their experience has changed them. From grief and growth to new perspectives and ongoing challenges, these honest reflections show the many ways ectopic pregnancy continues to shape lives long after the physical recovery.

Some days still feel heavy, but I’m stronger now. I’ve learned to ask for help, respect my boundaries, talk about my grief instead of hiding it and pretending it never happened. Sharing my story has given others hope, which feels like a gift.

To anyone reading this: you’re not alone. Your pain matters, and healing is possible. You are more than a statistic, and with time and love, you’ll find your path to healing. – Katarzyna. Read more of Katarzyna’s words here.

These personal experiences have been shared with us especially for Ectopic Pregnancy Awareness Day – a day to raise awareness, deepen understanding, and make space for voices that are too often unheard.

Each story is a gift of honesty and hope. In sharing them, we hope others feel seen, supported, and a little less alone.

What began as a hopeful moment, a faint line on a pregnancy test, quickly spiralled into one of the most traumatic experiences of my life.

– Amelia. Read Amelia’s story here.

When I found out I was pregnant, we were both over the moon. However, it was short-lived. Two days after I got a positive pregnancy test, I started spotting. Having gone through miscarriages before, I automatically assumed it was happening again.

– Anon. Read the full story here.

And then, a night of whispered wishes, hoping that you’d be alright.

But soon, time came to close my eyes and say our last goodnight.

You’re still a tiny spark of joy, our hopeful brand new start,

But now the only place we carry you is always in our heart. – From Amie’s poem, ‘Our Little Spark of Joy’.

It left me with questions,
Questions about the future,
The chances of my fertility,
Each baby I saw was a memory,
A whisper of what could have been – From Isabella’s poem, ‘Forty-eight Hours’

Baby E,
This time we weren’t meant to be,
And I’m so sorry we didn’t get to meet.
In another lifetime, the timeline will shift, our stars will align,
And I’ll hold you to full term
in the right place – of this body of mine.
But for now I will let my grief be my proof
That you existed in this life, and allow it to guide me to my truth. – From Tia’s poem, ‘Baby E’.

We are deeply grateful to everyone who has shared their story for Ectopic Pregnancy Awareness Day. It takes courage to put such personal experiences into words, and your voices are helping to raise awareness, challenge misconceptions, and support others who may be feeling alone.

If you’re not ready to share your story, please know that’s okay too. It’s powerful to speak out – and just as powerful to honour your experience quietly, in your own time.

However you choose to mark this day, we see you, and we’re with you.

– From us all at The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust